On the day that your mentality
Decides to catcha up with your biology
Come ‘roundThe Smiths - I Want the One I Can’t Have (Meat is Murder, 1985)
There is nothing like a good old love obsession. We are all guilty of it, and we can fall prey to it at any stage of our lives, no matter how grown and wise we think we have become.
As I have mentioned on numerous occasions, reading for love and lust is what I enjoy doing the most, and what makes me excited to call myself a cartomancer. Now, reading for hopeless infatuations and love triangles is what cartomantic bliss is truly made of. As I covered in my recent article on a love triangle reading, it all comes down to the power dynamics and agency of the actors.
The following short reading illustrates this perfectly and helps us pinpoint the crux of the problem. As my friend and mentor Camelia Elias puts it, reading for the agency in the cards is all about who is doing what to whom. And here we will clearly see who is the judge, the judged, and the executioner.
A client of mine came with a question regarding a handsome yet married man. She is also not a free agent, but all of a sudden she found herself consumed by her desire for this man, who obviously desires her as well. Neither of them has the freedom to do much more about it than meet in secret. She herself identified that this is not a productive situation, particularly where her mental well-being is concerned, so she wanted some clarity: Why am I so obsessed with this man, and what can I best do about it?
Well, as Mae West’s character Rose put it in Klondike Annie (1936): “When caught between two evils, I generally like to take the one I never tried.” It is clear that my client came to a point of ambiguity in her life, or a crossroads, so to speak. At a crossroads, the untried road always looks the most tempting. And from this crossroads, a fantasy has been born, one of her own making (Crossroads, Moon, Woman). She is the period at the end of the sentence of her “suffering”. We do not see the man in this situation at all, just her with her own nightly desires. So the obsession has very little to do with him. It is the untried evil that has her hooked, and the man is simply the face she has given it. She may well be alone in this, even though, according to her, the man is hot for her. Now if we look at the Do and Don’t cards (top and bottom), some would be inclined to make a hasty judgement and say, “Do the ‘other’ man, give in to this adventure”, as Rider can traditionally stand for the other man, a lover of a taken woman. But they would have missed one important detail, namely, the Don’t card, the Sun, which is positioned right under the Moon in the situation line. This changes the situation entirely. What it is saying is: stop trying to make your fantasy a reality by bringing it into the daylight. The best you can do is saddle your horse and move on (Rider).
And this brings us back to the question of agency. My client is the main agent in this reading, since the man in question does not appear. She brought this situation upon herself, made it seem more of a thing than it really is, and she is the one who can end it. It may be true that the Man has the hots for her, but he is still not in the picture, which raises the question: what is his role here, after all, and does he really spend the same energy fantasizing about her as she does about him? I doubt that. Some evils are best left untried, and the Sun makes it plain that this is one of them.
If we see that we are the only actor in a drama of our own making, and that our scene partner is nowhere to be found, even in the fantasy, it is time to saddle the horse and move on.
References
Elias, Camelia (2021). Read Like the Devil: The Essential Course in Reading the Lenormand Oracle. EyeCorner Press.
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